UNAIR NEWS“ Feeling safe orsecureis a basic need for humans.However, some situations make a person feel insecure, or often referred to asinsecurity.According to Atika Dian Ariana, SPsi., M.Sc.lecturer at the Faculty of Psychology,insecurityis a feeling of inability, not sure of one’s own abilities, so it triggers fear, anxiety, or similar negative emotions.
“The anxiety that arises due to feeling insecure is actually analert systemfrom the body, for example, when we are close to an exam schedule, we study harder,” she said in the Mental Health Awareness Webinar During Pandemic, on Sunday, July 11, 2021.
She continued thateustressor beneficial stress became the motivation to prepare as best as possible.“It’s not that they usually don’t study, but when the exam is ahead, there is more encouragement,” said the lecturer at the Faculty of Psychology.
According to Atika,insecurepeoplefeel uncomfortable in interpersonal relationships, andtheytend to be picky when making friends.“Picky in making friends is allowed, but people who areinsecurechoose friends who have less power than them,” explained Atika.“They choose that way because they feelsecurewhen they can control others of their own accord,” she continued.
Impact of insecurity
Atika explained thatinsecurityhas an impact on a person’s daily life.People who feelinsecure areafraid to get out of their comfort zone, so they are not optimal in developing their potential.“People who feel uncomfortable with the situation will have an impact on their performance being not optimal,” she said.
Insecurityalso has an impact on relationships with other people.Atika said thatinsecuritymakes it easy for someone to develop negative thoughts about others.“Insecure peoplefind it difficult to trust others and havecontrol issuesthat are synonymous with toxic relationships,” she said.
In addition to performance and relationships with other people,excessiveinsecuritywill impact health, both mentally and physically.
Overcoming insecurity
Atika said that the main condition to change from beinginsecureis commitment.To overcomeinsecurity, aperson must be committed to implementingself-love, loving themselves.Atika shared four tips:
- Improving your lifestyle to be healthier
- Recognizing and being aware of self
- Accepting and coming to terms with the experience
- Selecting the social environment
“Accepting and making peace is easy to say but difficult to do. If there is anunfollowfeature on social mediain the real world, we canalso choosewhich environment is good and comfortable for us,” she said.
Finally, Atika advised that if you need help dealing with anxiety, you can seek help by confiding in friends, relatives, or family close to you emotionally. Furthermore, you can also ask for help at the initial psychological assistance service at 119-8 or the “Sejiwa” service.
“If the steps above have not been able to overcome and there are persistent complaints, you should immediately seek professionals such as doctors, psychologists, or psychiatrists,” she said.
Author: Tata Ferliana
Editor: Binti Q. Masruroh
